We are all privy to the latest dating trends now that are defining relationships a bit more strategically. And now, along with these trends, there is a rise of emerging class of internet predators, who seek attention through fabricating information and scamming their way into online romantic relationships. We’re not kidding! And if you haven’t been a target yet, you’re really lucky! This trend is commonly known as ‘catfishing’ and it’s what’s been breaking hearts for a while now.
Catfishers usually target the meek and vulnerable and those who have gullible traits. There are various degrees of being catfished and there isn’t really a marker on how far an internet impostor will go to catfish you, to have his or her fun! It could be a light, breezy white lie or someone who promises you a future and completely disappears.
Picture this: You meet this beautiful girl online on a dating site. You two really hit it off and start chatting. Chatting turns to deciding to meet on a date. You guys go out, have a wonderful evening, She opens up to you about her family, her past and everything else she wants in the future. You guys start to like each other and start spending a considerable amount of time together. Then you date and things start to become serious. You talk about a probable future and she’s already talking about introducing you to her parents and you can’t wait! And one day, she disappears. No phone calls, no texts, no sign of her! You are left wondering what happened and before you know it, you find out somehow, she’s married! That my friend is the classic, brutal way to catfish someone. Well, most cases are not so extreme. Sometimes fibbing online to get attention from the opposite sex is also catfishing. It may seem harmless but it’s posing as someone you really aren’t at the end of the day.
We took the liberty to ask a few men about their online dating experiences and if they were ever catfished by someone and majority of the men had ACTUAL experiences with catfishers! Here’s what they had to say.
1. The ‘Already Taken’
I met someone on Tinder who was single. We hit it off and started chatting and I really enjoyed our conversations till I asked a common friend about her, who told me she was married! I was lucky to have found out right then and there. – Anonymous, 30
2. The ‘I Don’t Eat Meat’ Variety
This girl I met on tinder was all about ‘loving animals’ and she said she was a complete dog person. She even had a selfie with a dog, who I assumed was hers. When we eventually met, I figured she was actually scared of dogs. I have three dogs at home and she refused to enter my house. So much for ‘loving animals’! She obviously lied. – Karan, 30
3. The ‘I don’t Really Exist’ Girl
This girl I met on a dating site was damn pretty and I kept thinking how lucky I am to be swiped right by her. We had some real conversations too. We would talk about our interests and I kept thinking how such a pretty girl is still single. So I did some research to calm my brain down. So I Google searched her pictures and it turned out that there were a few more profiles with this girls picture on it, which obviously meant she was using someone else’s picture. I confronted her about the same and she unmatched me! – Mayank, 23
4. The ‘Sympathy Seeker’
I was once talking to this girl online who used to gain sympathy from men by telling them she lost her last boyfriend to a car crash. I fell for her act too. She would tell them how deplorable her living conditions are and she’s financially unstable and she got men to actually pay for her bills and shopping etc. All that was obviously a farce and she was just pulling a fast one to get attention and money! – Gagan, 33
5. The’Idenity Theif’
I have never been a victim of catfishing but I knew some guy in college who used to fake being a woman to talk to other women, on social media. I think he needed help! – Rohit, 26
6. The ‘Fake Vixen’
I met this girl on Tinder who was all out there with her sexuality. She posted pictures which indicated that she’s on tinder just for sex and wanted to obviously give out that mysterious ‘sexy’ girl vibe. I fell for it obviously. She was playing hard to get from the get go and it took me a long time to agree on meeting up. I obviously wanted to just hook up. Turns out, not only was the woman very prudish where sex was concerned but she turned out to be a virgin too! She was just creating a wrong image about herself on Tinder all this while and I can’t still figure why! – Anonymous, 27
7. The ‘Identity Crisis’ Girl
I met this woman on Tinder who was an airhostess. I’ve always wanted to hook up with one so I started chatting her up. She used to keep stalling me telling me she’s flying out and won’t be back a while etc. and I would obviously believe her. A few weeks into meeting her, my company was doing a CSR programme with this NGO and it turned out this woman was the programme officer with the NGO! I was a bit taken aback. I mean, I would love to hook up with an NGO worker too! I don’t know why she lied! – Gaurav, 32
There are obviously many more men who get catfished by women everyday. We still haven’t come across a major catfish debauchery yet but even these small fabrications count! Well, it’s not just women who catfish, men do it too but women usually lie about their profession, marital status, sexual inclinations etc on online dating sites and men obviously fall for it. Make sure you have all the facts in hand before you take the next step with a probable catfisher!
If you’ve been catfished, do tell us about it in the comment section and before you know it, we’ll be back with ‘how you can avoid being catfished’! Watch this space.
Source of news : Mensxp