This time it’s not even the woman saying it; it’s science. Can’t argue with that now, can you?
A new research paper that was published from University of Texas, revealed that our constant analysis to keep searching for someone better and more-compatible has officially deemed us unfit for long-term commitment. The study that involved 119 men and 140 women who were in long-term relationships, found that partners choose each other based on an algorithm of 27 qualities which include physical attraction, intelligence, health, and financial responsibility. The couples were further divided on the basis of the partners who were generally more desirable and less desirable, based on the qualities described above. Remember the reacher-settler theory in ‘How I Met Your Mother’?
The researchers subsequently found that the more desirable partner, when exposed to others who fit their needs and were more like them, physically, found it difficult to remain loyal to their current partners. Matters became even more complicated when that partner was said to be less desirable.
In an interview to Vice, Daniel Conroy-Beam, a psychology researcher and one of the lead members on the study, noted “the partners who were more desirable sometimes do make their relationships work, but only if that person has a limited number of options to upgrade from their existing relationship.” He further added that while the study didn’t get into enough detail to predict whether or not such relationships would last, he did mention that most of these couples would observe a rift in their relationship henceforth.
“We know that we have these kinds of ideal preferences for what we’d want in a mate in a perfect world. We know what people desire, but it hasn’t been very clear what these desires do,” said Conroy-Beam in the same interview, adding that “This was us trying to find out if we can use our desires to predict what’s going on in our actual relationship.”
The team had also conducted a follow-up research that showed that the less desirable partners would work slightly harder to keep their partners happy and maintain harmony in the relationship. Conroy-Beam further noted that the “the mating environment has changed dramatically over the last few years,” what with online dating becoming more and more preferred and convenient amongst most people, thereby increasing one’s inefficiencies to commit to a long-term relationship.
“The psychology has always been the same, but the dynamics have changed because the mating environment has changed,” he said to Vice. “This behavior has evolved over a long period of time where we as humans have been exposed to relatively small groups of mates, but now, with modern technology, we have access to a functionally infinite number of mates.”
So, the next time someone tells you they can’t commit because they have ‘commitment issues’, you probably know better about what’s really going on. Best of luck finding true and everlasting love out there in an ocean of uncountable fish—some better looking than others.
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Source of news : Mensxp