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Here’s What You And Your Partner Need To Know To Have The Perfect Threesome

Threesomes are back with a bang (ironically so) and they’re here to stay. To be honest, threesomes were big in the 90’s and they went back into their shells once the orgy revolution hit hard. Why not? More hands to feed, I say! But orgies soon faded away or remained limited to closed groups and sexual encounters went back to the placid ‘hook up culture’.

Recently, I was talking to a friend over drinks and he was telling me he longs to add some extra spice into his relationship and he posed the most viable question for the moment ‘dude, whatever happened to threesomes? Aren’t people attracted to that shit anymore?’ The question did get me thinking. Thinking about how it’s about time threesomes make an alluring comeback and actually create a fad, which marks them okay to stay and flourish. And why not? It’s the most humble basic flesh based bonding between human beings and it helps build confidence on every level.

So re-creating certain principles on how to welcome a threesome into your life, here’s a guide (based on experience, expertise and some really bad sexual preferences) to help you through scoring the perfect threesome and doing the right thing at the right time!

First Off, Make Sure You And Her Really Want It

Make better choices is all I’m going to say. If you’re remarkably tired of having a vanilla’ísh missionary tryst with your SO every Sunday morning, then it’s time to try some Butterscotch fun, but be very sure if that’s what you really want. Talking to your partner about it is very imperative and your kink factor shouldn’t be a surprise to or for her. I mean if you’re thinking of a threesome, think about it for the right reasons. Don’t do it because she’s nudging you to or because she’s had one in the past and you want to one up her or because it’s ‘cool’ to have one and it would make for a great Monday night Poker anecdote.

A Complete Guide To Having The Perfect Threesome

There are two people involved and one of them will surely be a tad uncomfortable. So discuss EVERYTHING you can with your partner before you take the plunge. The threesome talk with your partner doesn’t imply that you ‘convince’ her for the act or get annoyed with her disagreement. It means you plan your next steps wisely and be calculative about your moves.

Definitely go over ground rules. What are ground rules, you ask? They’re the do’s and don’t’s when you want to be overtly indulgent! For instance your girlfriend may tell you she wouldn’t like you to kiss the probable third person. You may want your girlfriend to do certain things too. Discuss the beginning, the middle and the end much before hand so that there isn’t any confusion or tension later on.

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You can create hypothetical situations and figure out how you would want to go about it. Also, decide if you want to have a threesome with a guy candidate or a girl candidate. In all probability, it should be a woman (because you know how comfortable you are around another naked man who will be touching your girl in places you don’t want him to touch her!).

Finding The Right Third Wheel

This ones a bit tricky. It’s not like you can put an ad in the papers (or can you?). Before you do that, decide on what kinda threesome you really want. Do you want the regular, ‘everyone’s welcome to the party’ threesome or ‘I just wanna sit and stare’ threesome? Are you into some hardcore BDSM and want a third person’s opinion? Whatever it is, be sure of what you want before you’re christened as ‘Ethan Hunt’. Single bisexual women who love indulging in sex with couples are termed as ‘Unicorns’. Because you know, they’re a myth and hardly ever visible. Also because Unicorns are cool. So you’re out on a Unicorn hunt and there’s no stopping you now. Unless you’re Tony Stark, with no inhibitions whatsoever, asking random women to have a threesome with you might be a tad tough but once you get the right one, that’s one thing off your bucket list for sure.

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The sheer question here is: how do you look for a probable Unicorn? There are many ways you can go about this but this also means equal participation for the ‘search’ by you and your partner.

Here are a few ways you can go about it.

· Prompt your girl to get on Tinder or any other dating app, to find the right match. It’s easier for women to approach women for a threesome than a man to be forward about it. On the app she can change her option to ‘interested in women’ and go about swiping. Trust me, there are ardent threesome fans and Unicorns lurking on dating sites, waiting to find the right fit. Once she finds someone she can be comfortable around, she can strike up an honest conversation about what you both are looking for.

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· Hit random bars with your girl and observe (not stare) women around you. If you see a woman comfortable in her skin, single and having fun maybe you can ask her to join both of you for the evening. It’s important how you approach a Unicorn though. Don’t go up to the woman and say ‘uhh threesome?’ Don’t be too forward and be respectful and honest about what you want! Once she’s in, you can discuss the rules of the house later.

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· Hit the topic with a couple of your friends you’re comfortable talking about these things with and ask them if they have someone in their purview who could possibly fit the role. I’m sure they’ll suggest a few names and then, the game is all yours.

· Other ways also include different sex clubs, orgy groups and online websites. This could be a tad tough because we live in a closeted sexual culture but there isn’t any harm in trying is there?

Prepping To Be The Ultimate Threesome Champ(s)

Prepping doesn’t necessarily mean studying for the act. It means getting ready for that one evening you’ll never forget. Since it’s considered as a substandard act, a threesome can be seen as a taboo by many. So deciding on a place that’s just at your disposal for the night is important. Arranging copious amounts of alcohol, since one of you will be highly uncomfortable at first, helps. When you do meet your Unicorn, discuss the rules with her openly, along with your partner. The experience can be staged or you can go with the flow, that’s totally up to you but getting comfortable with each other is of prime importance.

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You can discuss positions, what you guys are comfortable doing and what irks you, what kind of a threesome are you looking forward to and what is the eventual threshold. Once all that is decided, you’re good to go. Don’t forget protection! No, not to fight mosquitoes but because you’re gonna be indulging in sex with a stranger, condoms are a must!

A Complete Guide To Having The Perfect Threesome

Threesomes can be fun or intense but in my opinion they should definitely get out of the realm of fantasy and come to life. Don’t believe me? Go ahead, try it!

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Source of news : Mensxp

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