It’s always a given that a broken heart can be mended. Modern relationships teach us to love with conditions and to leave in urgency if things don’t turn out the way they are expected to. Let’s face it, we’re not old school anymore and we don’t spend our days mending broken hearts anymore. We’re the new millennial and we move on deliberately from the unpleasant situation and try and look for green pastures elsewhere.
We forget to give some sort of solace to our broken heart and time to heal it with courage. Instead we move ahead frivolously, trying to look for a quick fix. One must take every break up with a pinch of salt and take time to heal. This is because each heart break teaches us a great deal (especially the one from our first love) and if we imbibe these teachings, we will surely know how to let go of the negatives.
Here’s what heartbreak can really teach you, if you’re still young at heart.
You Don’t Always Get What You Want
It’s an understood fact that you may never get the things you ask for. When you’re in love with someone, you want to spend all your time with them. You have expectations of them like they have of you. But when the love goes a bit awry, these expectations become taxing to keep up with and you wish things remain the same. Most times they don’t and the person you gave your love to, starts to move on. You wish things were different and feelings remain but this is where you need to understand that you can’t get what you want all the time and this is the most important lesson of all.
You Can’t Question Free Will
Free will is an individual’s right to live however they want to and you really can’t question someone’s way of being a particular way. So if the person has decided to sever ties with you, the best thing to do is to respect that decision they have made and deal with the consequences on your own. That’s the only way inner strength is nurtured.
A Relationship Cannot Survive On Love Alone
Heartbreak will certainly teach you that sometimes to make a relationship work, you need more than love. You maybe insanely in love with each other but you can see the foundation crumble still. A relationship needs strength, understanding, stability and patience and if any of these elements are missing then it’s sufficed to say, it probably won’t last. A broken heart will understand this best.
You Learn To Be Self Sufficient
When you are with someone you learn to depend on them, emotionally, mostly. You derive happiness and joy out of the one person you spend most of your time with and more often than not, it’s your significant other. But when associations break, it’s tough to assemble all the pieces and go about your day as if nothing happened.
You don’t have that person to help you though the tough time you’re going through. You have to gain enough strength to be self sufficient and self reliant at this time. There is no one else who can or will understand you pain unless they’ve been through it. So be there for yourself and be responsible for your happiness.
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You Body Will Ask For Healing
Going through heartbreak is not just emotionally painful but physically indulgent too. Due to immense stress you take on, your body will be under constant pressure and it will give you sure shot signs to slow down. There could be weight loss/gain, body aches, insomnia, extreme mood swings, indigestion and anxiety that could deter your healing. Make sure you identify these signs and do whatever it takes to embrace the hard times. Eat right, exercise and sleep on time. It will help you heal better.
You Will See Your Goals Clearly
Once the fog is lifted, you will begin to see what’s more important in life and what should be given priority. You will begin to realise other things that needed your time but you couldn’t give them as much time and you’ll make way to balance your life out.
You Will Know What To Value In Future Relationships
When you lose out on someone with whom you’ve planned a future with, you lose out on those dreams and plans with the person too. You go on a blame game and either blame the person or yourself for the relationship not working out. Don’t do that. One of the greatest lessons a failed relationship teaches you is to figure out the missing pieces and the things you wanted from the relationship that didn’t work out and apply them to any future relationship that will work out. It helps you grow as a person too.
You Will Gain Immense Strength
That’s what grief teaches us. The more we learn to fight our demons, the stronger we get. So grieve if you have to but remember by facing all your demons at once you’re giving yourself great amount of strength to deal with any hardship you may face in the future. That’s the beauty of healing from a broken heart.
You Will Learn What True Friendships Are
In testing times, your family and friends play a big role. Especially when you’re going through a rough break up! If you haven’t made time for some friends in the past while you were busy in a relationship and they still stand by you during your heartbreak, these are real friends and you will learn the true meaning of friendship from them, when you’re going through heartbreak. If they’re by your side and understand what you’re going through, you’ve learnt a great lesson from them.
Some Doors Are Meant To Be Shut
The truth is- nothing in life is immortal. Everything will cease to exist one fine day. What we have to recognise is the ability to not let whatever ends to trouble us anymore. Sometimes it’s okay for relationships to turn sour and have a negative impact on our being. What’s not okay is for us to welcome the same association back into our life. Sometimes we must shut our doors completely on whatever that is negative in order to live a healthy life. So if something has impacted you in a bad way then definitely learn from the experience and move on ahead.
Apart from these valuable lessons, heartbreak also teaches us that no matter what, life goes on and you can only learn to embrace these situations and slowly let go of them. Take your time to heal and grieve but when you do decide to move on, don’t look back and fall. Rise and take any hurdle in your stride. You will not realise it momentarily, but there is a lot you can learn through heartbreak and some learnings stay with you through life!
Source of news : Mensxp